If you are reading this, chances are you answered yes. Regardless if you call it marriage counseling, couples therapy or relationship counseling, what you are signing up for is inviting a collaborator, a couples counselor, into the life of your relationship in order to help you and your partner grow.
Just like every person who comes to therapy requires something different, so do the needs of every couple. At Makin Wellness, we view the premise of couples therapy as three people (the couple and therapist) all coming together in order to help.
Do you need or want a mediator? Or perhaps someone to be tough with you both? Are you both struggling to communicate effectively? You might have some ideas about what type of help you both need, but first let’s learn more about what exactly is going on with you both and create a plan together.
There is more than likely a good reason as to why you or your partner is seeking out couples counseling. You probably also do not have the time or desire to work back through the history of your relationship to analyze details of your personality. Some of that could be helpful, but you would be in therapy for weeks or even months before you got to the current state of your relationship.
Drugs, anger, violence and infidelity all can challenge and change a relationship. If those factors are part of the picture, we should get honest about that. Those are all situations that can be confronted in session with a skilled therapist. When you and your partner are serious about doing the work, being open and honest about the ways the relationships has been hurtful , there’s so much room for growth. While in session, you are guaranteed a safe, judgement free environment. There is no situation or dynamic we won’t deal with.